You owe more than what you own

YOU OWE MORE THAN WHAT YOU OWN IN YOUR
PERSONAL LIFE


This time for a change I opted for a different and typical subject for the readers. I had been contemplating for quite sometimes on the subject in depth and as a result arose the subject title. I have a reasonable hope that readers will relish reading this, understand and grasp the essence in its right perspective and spirit to retain in mind rather than reading and erasing from the mind.


I have come across good number people and had personal interaction with them who are proud, happy, delighted and enjoys a sense of possession of what they own-be it money, wealth, properties, shares, stocks, bullions etc. Many of them are enthusiastic, exuberant, vibrant and happy over what all they own- One can keep a record of what all he owns and prepare a statement of one’s owning and at one point of time in life execute will to bequeath the owning to kith and kin-that being the one side of the life.




As a matter of fact no body owns anything whatsoever as mentioned above and we are all
temporary custodians of what we consider to own. It’s absolutely true if only one thinks deeper and realizes this truth. On the contrary we owe a lot to various others. You owe a lot to the divine supreme who brought to you to this world in human form. You owe a lot to your parents who were instrumental and taken every bit of care and nurtured untiringly for what you are today. You owe a lot to your best half (your wife) who is instrumental, influential and inspirational for what you are going to be in future, you will owe a lot to your children for what you are going to be at later part of your life and last but not least you owe a lot to yourself and you have to pay back by yourself to wipe off the owes (contemplate to contemper then you will realize what it means) it goes on like this never ending and immeasurable. I for one thing do not believe in monitory gains, compliances and compromises to pledge or give up the family relationship supposed to be retained clean and clear.

You make an attempt to keep a record of what all you owe to others- It will be a next to impossible task unlike maintaining a record of your owning.
Have you ever come across a person executing a will of what all he owe and to bequeath to his successors? According to me it’s never happened. If at all it happens as a rarest of rare event will one accept it? Not at all. Therefore it becomes imperative on the part of man to make best of efforts to clear what he owe to others to the best possible extent before bidding bye to his physical existence.

How do you clear what you owe to the divine supreme? It is he who has been kind and benevolent enough for all that you own. But for his kindness and consideration just imagine what you could have been? A big cipher. Think of him, pray in praise of him and let your prayer be of thanks giving, spent some time with him in solitude and silence daily, converse with him in silence daily and thereby make a beginning to pay back what you owe to him.

How do you pay back what you owe to your parents? Be kind and considerate towards them, express your love to them, show them your glowing and smiling face always, give them your love and affection, and always refrain from causing hurt to their feelings and sentiments (sentiments and feelings become particularly precious as one grows old)-when they are emotionally run down, re-charge and lift them up with sweet words of encouragement, comfort, soothing and old age motivation. It is not going to cost you monetarily- and even if one wants to repay what he owes to parents in monitory terms one can never achieve because it is beyond one’s capacity and reach to pay back to parents in monitory terms-just hold on to this and retain in mind.

How do you pay back what you owe to your best half? This is not that difficult according to me. Sharing is caring. You have to share all her moments with care. Express your true love and implement the true love in day-to-day life. Be concerned about her rather than worrying about her. For a change, change the policy of GIVE AND TAKE instead makes it GIVE AND ACCEPT (I hope your able to distinctly identify the difference between take and accept.). Having accepted her as best part of your life keep her in best form and mood always. Look her as A THING OF BEAUTY- to commensurate with the age-old saying A THING OF BEAUTY IS JOY FOR EVER and maintain this tempo. Outlook and attitude always. Concede to her reasonable desires and ambitions for mutual benefit and betterment of both. If you really follow caring is sharing policy coupled with taking care of her needs and moods you will not land up piling up of owes.

Now coming to children, you owe them much more than what you owe to others. It is on your own sweet will, wish and interest; you gave birth and brought them to this earth. Therefore it is imperative and essential and its your responsibility to bring them up in a nice and befitting manner with good academics, instill in them good values of living, ethics and etiquettes and make the world smile at them for their good conduct, deed and good living. This is the only stage in life of a man wherein he OWES A LOT AND OWN A LOT (of responsibility) in upbringing them in a perfect and harmonious way of living.

Similarly with every relationship in your personal life you owe more than what you own to maintain perfect harmony and understanding to lead a purposeful living. It is only the question of understanding this truth at the appropriate and right time at various stages of life so that you make a beginning to pay back rather than allowing to pile up owe and make it impossible to pay back.
Even though money, wealth etc. is every thing into-days living, it’s not ultimate. Ultimate is some thing totally distinct and different and one has to take careful initiative and interest to understand and abide by its ethics and principles to reap the incentive. What you own at the end will not accompany you when you quit this world but what you owe will not leave you and it will follow you and be with you in your come next on this earth. Therefore do not allow even the shade of the owe to accompany you. Leave this world with virtue, wisdom, knowledge and ethics. They will remain with you and accompany you when you come back to this earth again and will do lot of good to you and your succeeding generation.

Thanking you all readers and looking forward to your valuable feedback for improvement.
J.KANNAN