Worth Reading &.................

Worth Reading.......& Remembering.

NO POINTING FINGERS..........

A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a
successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for
her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind
that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a
better husband than you."

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are
afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he
would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is
the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one
finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.


CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?..........

A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and
requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a
suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh,
good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in
singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home
during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest."
The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need a
television."

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a
blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the
faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of
the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and
dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the
excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage
is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

NO OVERPOWERING................

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower
another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love
will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after
marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying
which carries the meaning that........................

"It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing
the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations.


RIGHT SPEECH.................

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that

"A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation."

Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site.
A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember
me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her
millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise you
will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered ,"You should
appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire
and not you."

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.

PERSONAL PERCEPTION................

Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be
another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the
way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on
the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the
donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and
commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride
on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife
quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can
the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey.
Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you
hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing
that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey
and carried it on their shoulders.

It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the
donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell
into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will
everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never
will be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..


BE PATIENT...............

This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of
his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his
three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of
the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the
little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed
down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he
finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When
the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he
innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked,
"but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father just couldn't reply

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or you
wish to take revenge. Think first before you lose your patience with
someone you love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings
often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between
the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater
than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions
we take while in a rage will haunt us forever...................JK