A study on Ego & Self.....................

A Study on Ego and the Self

A flower falls, even though we love it; and a weed grows, even though we do not love it
- Dogen Zenji

Life is a journey to be experienced and lived, one step at a time and one moment at a time. A journey has begun and the joys and hardships have taken root to start a slow and purposeful growth. What we will nurture and what will we not allow to grow within us is a matter of choice. A choice that we take every now and then and with it grows our experience. There is one thing we all have in common.

"That is, at some point of time, we will face adversity and it is not a matter of ‘if’ but when."

Have good trust in yourself - not in the One that you think you should be,
but in the One that you are.

Understanding self is a complex and tedious job because somewhere we do not wish to know the real self. Ask a man if he knows his woman and the answer will always be: “of course, that’s why she is my woman.” The reality is different far from the truth. There is no woman who will ever let any man ever know the real self. The fools that we men are will seldom accept this reality for it does not suit us and our ego is going to be punctured but it suits the woman perfectly to ensure that her man believes her completely. She will allow the man to know only that suits her and comforts her. I personally believe that women are far stronger and smarter than men but that’s my personal belief. We go through four stages in life: –

childhood,

adolescence,

adulthood

&old age.

It is like the four seasons and that’s what life is all about. A change of seasons.

In all this comes that little strong bully, The Ego, who is always lurking around to show his mettle. One of the prime causes of failures in relationships has always been ego. A perfectly good way to ensure self destruction for an unworthy cause. Be realistic and ask yourself:-

Is it so necessary to stand on high ground and procrastinate?

Is it worth it?

Have you really achieved what you set out to achieve?

If yes, then are you happy now or are you still running into the abyss not knowing where to go and what you have lost. The ego is the single factor that leads you to your doom.. Cry if you must and alone you will cry. Shed your ego and there will always be someone to share that smile.

Even at this age of 63, I have not understood many a things as each is a mystery that unravels itself. People are like onions, all with layers and layers to be unveiled. Remove one and there is another facet to be experienced. Like the elephants teeth, what’s to be shown are different to that what he eats with. I have come to realize that the difference in our success or failure is not change, but choice. Because when adversity strikes, it's not what happens that will determine our destiny; it's how we react to what happens

You are forgiven for you know not what you mean to me. You will always be the same as I thought of you when we first met and I will respect that feeling always. That’s the simplest way to forgive and let go. The best moments are the moments to cherish and nurture for the flower within to grow. Keep removing the weeds of ego & anger and you will find happiness within yourself. You may have understood the self now, hopefully.

Change the first alphabet of "E" from Ego and re-place with "A" Ago- means "The past part of the discarded" and live without EGO.

"The first step in life is the most important one, so take it now."

Complied and edited by J.K